Exodus International, the largest organization in the world that advocates for Christian “ex-gay therapy,” has announced it will be shutting down.
Even more exciting: they admit that the world is changing to become more accepting of LGBT people. Months ago, the organization’s officials had expressed doubt in its mission and methods, to the point of admitting that the vast majority of people can’t change their sexual orientation but will be accepted in Christianity anyway.
“I believe we’ve come to a time in the church when it’s time to lay our weapons down,” Alan Chambers said at an Irvine conference. “We fought the culture and we’ve lost. But I think we’ve lost for a good reason because it’s time for peace.” …
“There have been people that we’ve hurt, there are horror stories, and I’m not telling you this for any other reason than to be honest and tell the true story about this ministry,” he said. “In 37 years we haven’t done everything right because we’re a bunch of humans. We’ve hurt people. We’ve helped people. But we’ve hurt people.”
Chambers then said it wasn’t enough to acknowledge the ministry’s missteps only to the congregation, so the church decided to talk with Ling and face the truth in a “really big way.”
In a statement on the church’s website, Chambers said a new ministry would rise in place of Exodus, one that would work with other churches to create “safe, welcoming and mutually transforming communities.”
Holy crap. I can’t even put into words how significant this is. This is an incredible victory for the millions of queer people out there who are forced into traumatizing treatments simply because of who they are. This is proof that things are changing. I’m honestly floored.
Edited/Redo: Day 18 - LGBT Challenge: Something you don't understand about the gay community
So, after been absent from Tumblr for a while, I decided to go back and reread and edit some posts, not only for spelling errors (womp), but to see if there was anything that I need to clarify or have changed my opinion on. I came across this post and realized how… ignorant and shallow it was - partially out of having a bad day for various reasons when I wrote it- so I’m editing it.
Originially, I was talking about how I didn’t understand or like it when gay guys dressed feminine etc. I’m not sure what I was thinking when I posted that over a year ago, but I just want to clarify that there is nothing wrong or embarassing about expressing yourself as masculine or feminine (or neither, or both), regardless of your gender or sex, transition stage, or anything else. Yes, I am attracted to masculine, cisgender guys, but on my original post I made it sound like anything other than that for a guy is shameful, which is certainly is not. I apologize if I offended anyone. As gay guys growing up, we are culturally educated that guys are to be masculine and be attracted to feminine women, and once you realize you are anything but straight, and/or not the stereotypical masculine gender/sex that societies have tried to instill in us, it is a fairly long process to grow out of that and adjust comfortabley. Know that you are unique and an amazing, beautiful person regardless of your [percieved] sexuality, gender, sex, et al.
Current happenings: Peace Corps, Houston; should I?
Just felt like typing out some thoughts. If you care to read and respond via texting me, feel free.
I’m in complete limbo right now. I’ve been working full-time at this job that I was viewing as temporary, so I’m still searching for something I want to make into a career. I haven’t had much luck here in Austin with finding something so I was thinking about job hunting in Houston; I have a few good friends there and always enjoyed the city growing up. The issue is my Peace Corps status - I’ve been nominated, so that means I could potentially get an assignment invitation by this summer. I don’t want to move and start a job only to have to leave a few months later… but thats the other thing… I know the Peace Corps would be a great experience, but, do I REALLY want to do it? I’m just not sure I could bring myself to be away from the U.S and my loved ones for over 2 years. And, thats 2 years of missing out on family events, and potentially meeting a lover or “life-mate” as my aunt calls my future husband. And plus I really want to apply to grad school and start my career, pay off my student loans, meet my future husband, and buy a house :3 ; I guess I just really like stability. Don’t get me wrong- I enjoy and welcome change, it’s just I’m ready for… those things I just listed, and the Peace Corps would delay that. I think I’m just afraid of missing out on things while being overseas… so I’m just stuck, and really don’t know what to do.
Everytime I think about you, I just zone out, daydreaming. Wishing you were with me. Wishing we were traveling the world together. Wishing we were spending a romantic evening together. Wishing we were raising our adopted kids together…
Everytime I go to do something I know isn’t the best for me, you come across my mind. And it stops me. I don’t even think twice.
I want you so badly. You and me. Thats how I want it to be.
I hope you realize how beautiful you are. Whoever gets you will be so lucky…
So I moved to Austin, Texas, for those of you who don’t know yet. It’s been awesome since I’ve been here. I’ve gotten to be around my cousins and little 2nd cousins; I love being around to be a part of their lives like going to their soccer games, football games, and swim meets. It makes me sad that I’ve been away from my family for so long since I’ve been away at college for the past 5 years.
So, with that said, it looks like I’ll be making Austin my new home for a while. I got a temporary full-time job working at Fry’s Electronics while I’m looking and interviewing for a business-related, salary-based job to jumpstart my career. I’m just hoping I can find something that I will love and that will contribute to helping our society become a better place =}
I have an apartment deposit down with my best friend, Stephen, from grade school who I’ve known for the past 11 years. Its in a great location - just 10 minutes from downtown Austin! Awww yeah =]
Anyway. So theres this guy…
his name is Isaiah and we met about 4 years ago when I went to visit Stephen at WTAMU. We talked on the phone weekly for several months after that and he apparently really liked me but I wasn’t aware of that at the time. One night I was talking to him and my douche bag roommate at the time grabbed the phone away from me and ran into his room and locked the door. He was talking to Isaiah about something…idk. But anyway I ended up believing my roommate and giving him the benefit of the doubt over the issue (because I was naive, apparently). Isaiah and I stopped talking for a long time.
The other week, once I moved down to Austin, Isaiah and Stephen and I were swimming and I was asking Isaiah if he was talking to his friend that he brought; he said no, that he wasn’t looking for anything from anyone and that he needed to work on certain things with himself first. So that night we went out downtown… Isaiah and I got back to his car whe we were leaving but Stephen and this other guy had to go back to get Stephen’s ID. It was around 2a.m. and we were standing next to Isaiah’s camero on 10th street downtown. There was no one around except a few cars; nice breeze, cool night. When Isaiah and I were talking he said somethig to me along the lines of, “you and Stephen could get any guy you want…” and then went on a tangent on criticizing himself. All I could think about is how awesome of a person he is and how wrong he was about everything he was saying… so I just moved in and kissed him. It was well received, thankfully :-) … that night we went back to his place and we started kissing again… I spent the night with him :3 …
le sigh… so I was all excited; I had this awesome guy with great potential, but for some reason it didn’t feel quite right. I asked him a few days later if he was okay with everything that happened and he said yes, but he just didn’t want anything bad to happen; he’s not the type of person to have things awkward if it doesn’t work out but he just wasn’t sure how I felt, and he reminded me that he wasn’t looking for anything from anyone because he needs to work on some things about himself. So then I just flat out asked him if he liked me and he said that there were things that we need to work on in our friendship first. Then he brought the scenerio that went down with Quinton and how he was disappointed and pissed off that I sided with Quinton over him and so he just cut the communication between us after that. I tried to explain that I had only met him once and that I had known Quinton at the time for over a year, so of course I believed Quinton at first, before I realized what an ass he is. So we haven’t been intimate since that night. I’ve tried to hang out with him a few times and it seems like he doesn’t have much interest all the sudden. He hasn’t been responding to my texts much, but at the same time I guess he could be busy working. That and the combination of me being excited and anxious about a new potential fling, but I’m thinking he’s not that interested if he’s not just as excited. I know we need to develop our friendship more but thats what I’m trying to accomplish by getting him to just hang out…but thats hard to do when its only being initiated by one side.
On another thought, I almost feel like he’s playing hard to get and likes it when people chase after him and are begging to be with him. He had mentioned that me and Stephen could get any guy we wanted, so part of me thinks he’s kindof rejecting me because it feeds his ego or something. But maybe that’s arrogant for me to think that.
I was so excited though- It’s been a long time since I’ve liked someone this much this quickly… I just went home and cried my eyes out after we had that talk. Maybe I’m just impatient. Maybe I’m blind. Maybe he’s right. I wish he would’ve just pushed me away when I tried to kiss him the first time… but it kept going until we fell asleep in each others arms.
SHIT I CAN'T MAKE UP: Convo between my 7 year-old students today
(Names have been altered slightly, just in case.)
Josie:I have a new crusshhhhh
Matt:Me, too! On a boy!
Pearl:You're a boy with a crush on a boy?
Matt:Yeah he's really cute.
(pause for a bit)
Matt:Boys can like boys. I just can't marry him because boys can't marry boys.
Me:Yeah they can. You can marry whoever you want.
Josie:YEAH. my tia has a wife so now I have a titi and an auntie.
Matt:Okay. Then maybe I'll marry him.
Dave:(from across the room) No you can't, you're seven.
(Age was apparently the only foreseeable problem anyone of my elementary schoolers could see with gay marriage. I almost cried out of happiness. Later, when I was asked if boys could kiss anyone they wanted, I replied, "only if they want to kiss you back." And Josie responded, "Yeah! Your body, your life.")
I had a phone interview with CGI on Monday and was invited to have a personal interview in D.C on April 26th. Hopefully if that all goes well, I’ll be on my way to becoming a Business Analyst and working with CGI and partnering with the U.S. Department of State, Department of Defense, and Intelligence Agencies :-)